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We are not dating we are just friends

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A coy smile here.

But what if you had those feelings for a friend? A guy you know really well? Like, your old friend from high school or that guy who lives down the hall in your dorm?

Flirtationships can be fun and silly, but they can also get awkward really fast and potentially mean bad news for having a real relationship with that guy. So how do you navigate this tricky territory? This guide will give you the rules to live and flirt by. And with some advice from Julie Spira, best-selling author and the Cyber Dating Expertand stories from real collegiettes, you can take We are not dating we are just friends of your flirtationship.

Spira breaks it down to the basics for us. Flirtationships typically develop in one of two ways: Or worst-case scenario they can fall apart completely, leaving out the idea of a possible relationship and the friendship too awkward to fall back on.

It sounds like flirtationships can get emotionally complicated, and they can. But sometimes, they can be an easygoing alternative to a relationship. Rachel from New York University says that her flirtationship with a longtime guy friend Hunter means having someone to depend on.

A flirtationship, much like a friends with benefits situation, means having all the benefits of a relationship without the obligations. You can save your weekend nights for clubbing with the girls and splurge on those to-die-for heels you just hadto have.

If you're only meeting up...

Say you meet a new cute guy and say this guy asks you out. The same thing can happen if you saw the flirtationship developing with your friend and he started a committed relationship with a new girl. Jealousy is the number one cause of destroyed friendships that developed into flirtationships, according to Spira. Collegiettes in flirtationships agree.

Kerry from Hofstra University found herself in a dire dilemma when her flirtationship with a taken guy went a little too far.

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