The term "stoner" has long been synonymous with high school burnouts, collegiate-level slackers, and a handful of other male "underachiever" stereotypes. Of late, the word has gotten a make-over—a glamming up, if you will—thanks in Pot smoker dating a non-pot smoker recipes to the female cannabis lovers who are leading the marijuana industry's growth and stepping in to reclaim and normalize the once-loaded term.
We spoke with seven women, all hailing from different social and professional backgrounds, about what it means to be a stoner, and how dispelling the negative connotations of the female smoker.
I was a late bloomer. I started smoking at 24, and I'm 30 now. When I was young, my dad was a big pothead, and he drank a lot. I was really religious, good kid, and the negative perceptions were there, like, "Only people with big problems are the ones smoking and drinking.
I was like, "Oh, its not just gross guys that smoke weed. I tried to do stand up stoned, and it was terrible. I bombed so hard. The first time I was like, "Okay, maybe this just is my first time and I could've been paranoid or something. It gives me something to look forward to after my show.
If you smoke, people will assume that you're a stoner, especially if you're a girl. If you post a smoking pic, everybody is like, "Okay, you have a problem.
I don't want to compare cigarettes to marijuana, but remember back in the '90s, when all those beautiful supermodels smoked cigarettes, and it just seemed so beautiful? That's what Rihanna is doing with weed. For a long time, it was just the Sarah Silverman-type chicks, where they were just dressed-down potheads and they don't give a shit about anything, and that's never been my style. Rihanna makes it pretty because she's so fabulous.
I like the way I look and I like to be dressed up and I embrace everything about myself physically, and Rihanna is that way too.
She's in a gown looking beautiful and she has a blunt and she makes it so chic. I work at a company that does market research for a lot of Fortune companies and big brands. I wouldn't say my hours are long, but I work the whole day that I'm at the office. You know how some people have a glass of wine?
Smoking weed is just something I do to unwind at the end of a day or workweek. I don't think of being a stoner as part of my identity.
There are so many more interesting things I do other than smoking weed. When you smoke, you attract similar people as friends. At this point in my life, I don't really date men who would have a problem with it.
But when I was a little bit younger, I can definitely think of many times when would go out on dates with men or have them back to my apartment and they'd see that I smoked weed and it'd become something of a turn-off.
Sometimes there was the thought that maybe you weren't ladylike enough for them to be seriously interested in you. I consider myself a feminist; I consider myself political; I like having discussions and I don't back down from a conversation. In these cases, I think smoking can become a stand-in for other personality traits that they don't like.
I don't know if there's sexism in Pot smoker dating a non-pot smoker recipes weed world. I think guys love smoking with girls. In the Bay Area, everyone smokes weed, so it wasn't really like girls were different from guys.
Smoking weed was the way you'd try to hang out with a girl, like a cheap date. I don't think guys thought less of girl smokers; they probably thought they were cooler, honestly. I'm a proud, successful stonerI would say. I dab, which is the most extreme way of smoking.
I'll take a dab at night after the baby's asleep, when it's time to get into my creative projects and get into my zone. You have to have a blowtorch, a dab rig, and this little tool to get the wax off the sheet. I'm sure a lot of people in New York haven't even seen it go down in real life. You can Pot smoker dating a non-pot smoker recipes mess yourself up if you burn yourself.
And most of the time you look like a crackhead when you do it, so I try not to do it in front of other people or, like, adults, because they'll be like "Whoa, you're pulling out a blowtorch, what the fuck? I'm not really too much of a functional stoner. I have a radio show, and I'll have artists on there that want to smoke, and I'll be like, "No, I can't do this high, or I'll sound like an idiot.